Lately, there has been (or maybe I just started noticing) a boom in articles and groups about self acceptance amongst the plus size female community. Photographers are making entire shoots with curvy women, showing off their bodies and voluptuous curves; even designers are defiantly adding plus size models to their runways. Check out this Sexy Patate takeover!!! I love it!
Let me let you in on a few observations I've made on the plus size community. The goal is not only to achieve self love and acceptance but also, to have others see us as equals, as normal human beings.
On one side, there's the insecure woman which is probably the saddest thing on this planet. She'll tend to be the push over; she's that one friend that will always do what others want. She'll be uncomfortable if given a compliment and generally walks with her head down. She is not, per say, a bad dresser; she just isn't convinced that she looks good, so nobody is convinced either.
I wish people understood that your looks don't define you. Being bigger doesn't make you less beautiful, important, smart or desirable than anyone else. Your mental however can trick you into thinking that. Once a woman accepts her body and most importantly understands it, understands how to dress, understand how to carry herself, other people's views and opinions can no longer hurt her.
On the other side, there's the over-confident big woman, who becomes obnoxious and borderline ridiculous. She tends to be loud and extra-over-the-top, she wears her clothes way too tight; she aims to shock and usually does, not always in a good way. Her motto seems to be "if skinny girls can wear it, so can I". She has an IDGF attitude, She's an I don't care what they say or think kinda girl, which, quite often, is just a front.
Out of these two, you have to find your balance. While being confident and edgy, there's no need to ignore your real size when shopping. Act with class; you don't need to be the loudest in the room - bigger does not equal louder. Believe that you are a good looking woman, tastefully dressed. Most of all, stop seeing yourself as a plus sized woman. See your self as a woman, simple. Size is not your main attribute.
I wish society would stop labeling people. Straight, gay, plus size, skinny, black, white; who cares? As long as you are comfortable in your skin, isn't that what matters?
I wish there was more I could do in Haiti to help my fellow Sexy Patate, more then a few words on a blog (I can't even find time to do this regularly). I remember once, designer Maelle David, had plus size girls model in an Ayiti Runway show. I wish such things were done more often. It really was a positive exposure for the Sexy Patates.
Now, the next time you Sexy Patate doubt yourself, remember that there are more of us then the skinny ones (lmao) so hold your head up high, they get intimidated trust me!
Until next time my fellow fatties, friends and readers (you too haters, I know y’all can’t help but secretly read). Stay fabulous! #teamsexypatate
